- 4 hours ago
here’s an example of how insidious this is:
If you were one of those young girls who was simultaneously told that she was smart and talented and loveable for being smart and talented but also told that men were smarter and more valuable than women, you might grow up rejecting anything even vaguely feminine because you didn’t want to be mistaken for weak/stupid/ girly, which you know are bad things.
So you might have a whole lot of tastes that you thought were intrinsic to your personality, like hating the color pink, that are really internalized misogyny. You might grow up and discover some girly stuff that is GREAT like Sailor Moon and realize that you don’t actually hate sparkles and flowers and pink after all, and wonder how different you might have been if you hadn’t been taught from an early age that being a girl was distasteful.
oh look the realization i’ve been having for the past few years
ahahahahah oh god it hurts to read this because it’s so true
- 10 hours ago
- 11 hours ago
Hey everyone, this is just a quick reminder that I hope not just service dog peeps reblog, because it’s especially important to those who don’t have service dogs. Please please do not distract service dogs. I know it’s sometimes cool to see, and a lot of us are dog lovers, but making eye contact, asking to pet, petting without permission, whistling, talking to the dog, putting your hand down towards the dog, stopping in front of the handler/dog to stare at the dog, all these things qualify as distracting the service dog. they may seem harmless but they AREN’T. you have no idea what that service dog is there for, they are working, and they need to stay focused on their handler. You can accidentally be the cause of the handler being hurt by distracting the service dog.
Case in point: Today I went to Costco with my friend, we both had our service dogs. Many people were stopping us, talking to us, asking us questions, she has a merle Great Dane, so it’s not common. But a quick trip that would take an average person 10 minutes took us about a half hour because we had to keep stopping or asking people not to distract the dogs, or leave the dogs alone. And then we missed someone. A woman saw my service dog, Scarlett who is still in training and started talking to her. Scarlett crossed over me to see this woman which made Scarlett step on my foot, and trip me, I landed HARD on the Costco floor (which is concrete). And this woman only said “oh, she smells my dogs.” and still stood there hoping for a conversation as two dogs and my friend are trying to help me up, which is NOT easy with leg braces (they finally left after glaring at us when my friend told them they can’t talk to service dogs). Finally using the Great Dane I was able to pull myself up and had to use him as a crutch the rest of the way out. My back is hurt, my knee swollen, and I’ll be recovering for a bit especially considering I was already recovering from a hurt back. ALL OF THIS COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED had she not talked to my service dog.
SO PLEASE remember, if you see a service dog, IGNORE IT. I know it’s cool, I know they are rare and pretty and it’s really amazing and we love dogs, I totally get that, but distracting the service dog can really potentially injure the handler.
Really, really important. Admire these intelligent helpers as they work, but do so from afar and quietly. It is NOT okay to put people in danger like this, or even the dogs depending.
Also, friendly reminder that you should ALWAYS ASK FOR PERMISSION when petting or otherwise interacting with a dog anyway, like I get it, most are fine and fun and friendly but you do not know the behaviour of that individual and a clumsy or reckless ‘hello’ could result in aggression from a dog that does not trust strangers. Common courtesy guys, mostly for the dog’s safety because if they are provoked and hurt someone they can be killed for it, and here in the case of people with assistance dogs, accidents can so easily be prevented if you are simply courteous and respectful and watch from a distance.
Also, who is out here interacting with strange dogs all willy nilly? How rude.
(via sleepyheathen)Source: nocturnalvisionary
- 11 hours ago
- 11 hours ago
"Girls are trained to say, ‘I wrote this, but it’s probably really stupid.’ Well, no, you wouldn’t write a novel if you thought it was really stupid. Men are much more comfortable going, ‘I wrote this book because I have a unique perspective that the world needs to hear.’ Girls are taught from the age of seven that if you get a compliment, you don’t go, ‘Thank you’, you go, ‘No, you’re insane.’"
- 15 hours ago
I can’t wait for somebody to cosplay as Alexander Pierce and just walk around comicon with a 1/8th glass of milk